Parenting Battles – The Car Seat

Parenting Battles – The Car Seat

Admit it, we’ve all been there! Usually it happens when you’re running late for an appointment or it’s tiddling down with rain. The child goes as stiff as a board and refuses to get into the seat or if you’re really unlucky refuses the car altogether.

We’ve had this happen a lot over the last few years but it’s usually manageable with a bit of bribery. That is until last week when the 5 year old decided he wasn’t having any of his new car seat.

The day started well. We’d been to the local country park on a Home Start day out. The kids had done crafts, played in the park, done some pond dipping and had a picnic. I’d been brave and taken all of them on my own and was feeling slightly smug that everything was going well.

We headed back to the car after several hours and I loaded the 3 smallest into the car while the eldest got himself in. This was no different to usual but things were about to get ugly! The 3 little ones were all ready to go and I went to do up the biggest ones seatbelt but he’d decided he didn’t want to be in his seat.

No amount of coaxing, arguing or fighting him would work. I tried for a good 20 minutes all whilst he was screaming at the top of his voice. It must have sounded like I was murdering him in the back of the car!

I eventually gave up and called Daddy in the vain hope he would listen to him. Kids always behave for their Dad’s right? By this point, the others were starting to get upset and I was sobbing that we were going to be stuck here forever! Daddy tried his best over the phone but failed miserably.

Knowing it wouldn’t be long until no. 2 started to try and escape his car seat and, faced with the prospect of being stuck in the car park forever with 4 screaming children, I did what all terrible parents do – I went to drive off. I’m not proud of my decision but thankfully all it took was starting the car and putting it in reverse before the child panicked and put his seatbelt on. If only I’d done that 20 minutes earlier!

I’m very glad he saw sense so quickly as I couldn’t have driven off knowing he was unrestrained in the back of the car. I’d probably still have been stuck in that car park several hours later when Daddy came home to rescue us!

This is a scenario I really hope won’t be repeated but knowing children and car seats, I know it will! What are your top tips for car seat refusers? How can I ace this in the future?

What We’ve Learnt From Half A Term At School

What We’ve Learnt From Half A Term At School

So, the biggest boy has finished his first half term at school. It’s been a long, tiring and at times frustrating 6 weeks but we made it. So, what have we learnt?

1. They get really, really tired
The stroppy, difficult child arrived after 1 week of full time school. The sulking and teenage display of not wanting to get out of bed in the morning is most amusing!

2. They don’t appreciate going to school on their birthday
Refer to this post. I had to drag him to school kicking and screaming as he desperately wanted to stay at home. Not one of my finest parenting moments but, within 5 minutes of being in class he was fine!

3. They are really missed at home
Both me and his brother really miss him. O has lost his play mate and runs to hug him as soon as he’s out of school. They used to try to kill each other but now they hate being apart!

4. They think their teachers are superheroes
“My teacher says this”, “my teacher does it this way”! Mummy is suddenly always wrong! I’ve been replaced by another woman in his life!

5. They have a really great time
He comes home from school telling me it was OK and he didn’t do much but, parents evening and the weekly reports we get from his teacher tell another story. Apparently, he’s really enjoying himself.

6. It’s not as hard as I thought to get 4 children dressed and out the door
I’m not the playground Mum I thought I’d be. I thought I’d be the one tearing down the road late with half dressed kids in tow. Instead, I’m one of the first at school, fully dressed and even sometimes with make up on! Go me!

7. The big boy attitude sucks
I always thought he behaved like a teenager but that was before we started school and took sarcasm and bad tempers to a whole other level!